About benGAYliz About benGAYliz First of all welcome to benGAYliz, a place where you can meet other LGBT guy's from across the globe. benGAYliz, a word made out of Bangladeshi GAY and LESBIAN and a word that coresponds with the word Bangalis ( a term for Bangladeshis). Being gay in Bangladesh has never been a phenomona. It just has never been identified as being gay but more often in the olden days , refeared to as being Cirokumar (some one who chooses to live the batchelor life style). I suspect weather it was a choice for most guy's to live like a batchelor, I mean what choice did they really have? The society was never gona accept them as being diffrent, nor did it have the previlages of todays science, techonology, level of understanding or the education. To understand that being gay is not a personal acheivement that you develop as you grow but something you are born with. Today at the turn of the century, more and more Bangladeshi guy's are coming out and living like any other gay or lesbian citizen. These are mainly the gay Bangladeshi's living abroad. Even in Bangladesh more and more guys are staring to follow into the foot steps of their homosexual sisters and brothers living abroad. However the senior generation, and those with the lack of understanding the mordern science and with lack of education, often still struggles to adopt to the idea of living and sharing one society. Yet still amagingly a lot of relationships do develope in the closet and continues discreetly ( a thing very common mainly with the married and bi sesxual guy's). benGAYliz journey began in early 2007. After being live and online for nearly two years it was finally launched at londons Kudos Bar in November 2008, and was featured in two of the leading LGBT medium, Boyz megazine and the Pink Paper. Being a Muslim, Bangladeshi and coming from a well off back ground, I remember exectly how difficult it was for me, growing up as a gay teenager. Then as I grew older I came to find out about the wide and wild London gay scene, the bars in Compton Street, GAY, Heaven, gay gym and saunas, the websites - gay.com and gaydar (like any gay teenagers do). Thats when I started to wonder what would it be like to have a place or something to unite all the Bangladeshi LGBT's and their admirers together? and so, along came the idea of benGAYliz. benGAYliz is a non profitable site and I hope my site will help guys of all age and sex's to benifit from the aboundance of information and facilities available to get connected with other like minded people across the world. At present benGAYliz is operated by only a small group of guys. Who voluntiarily contributes their time and effort to make sure the constant running of this site. Hence we are open to all ideas and information offered. So don't hesitate to contact us via our Contact Us page. Enjoy benGAYliz Abs | CRUISING IN BANGLADESH We bring you the latest hot and happening gossip on the invisible and the exciting underground gay scene of Bangladesh. Now, few years ago if some one had told me, "you know I met some one on the street today and we went back to their place and had a bit of a naughty fun", I would not believe them. But having seen it with my own eyes I have just one thing to say, YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT!!. In the whole country there is not one single place, could be found particularly just for us gay boys. Yet surprisingly cruising takes place everywere, in social clubs, cinemas, gym, parks, lakes, river pavements and even on the street. With the modern technologey in the palm of our hands, meeting and socialising has never been easier. Almost every gay guys in every cities and towns know's each other. Thanks to the invention of mobile and internet. Guys usely connects with each other in the chat rooms and by exchangeing contacts amongsts themselves. And since sex before marrage is completely off the menu in Bangladesh, our streight brothers are often known to pay a visit or two in the neighbourhood too. So if you are a tourist or planning to visit Bangladesh in the near future, then belive me benGAYliz does work and it has already been connecting people around the globe. Give it a shot and you will know exectly what I mean. Dhakas Romna park is still one of the most popular gay cruising ground. Just after dark in the evening seems the most busiest, then it slows down a bit. But you really have to be careful with who you flirt with and where you do it. The city police is usely patroling in and around the park even in the most quietest of the time. So best hang around and see what’s going on. It wont be long before you will see interesting stuff going on in the dark corners and down by the lake. My best advice to outsiders and visitors don't approach anyone unless you are 100% sure it's safe to do so. Honestly park is full of caracters and not to mention the genuine by passers and public. Who do come in just for a walk or peaceful fresh air. As the park is really well maintained and trully a nice place to be in, so it does attract a lot of public. It even has a classy Chinese restauran at the entrance. Generally things takes place from just a normal conversation. Usely it's like "Oh what you doing here? Did'nt expect to find you in here" So the other person will be like, "I think you are confusing me with some one else". Then you reply "I am so sorry You know, you are the spitting image of my friend who I havent seen for ages, I wondered what would he be doing here" Then the conversation just carries on by "by the way I m bla bla bla, whats your name?". So from my own experience approaching some one is really that simple and it happens everywhere. Some hotels in Dhaka are also becoming very gay friendly and accommodating now days. Unfortunately hotels can not be named for obvious reasons but normally the 3* to 5* hotels are the best in facilitating your needs in this prospect. | Sylhet is undoubtedly the next best city for gay cruising and socialising. MODHUMITHA, a government funded project located in the heart of the town centre. Provides a handful of services for it's members including Information on HIV, STD and sexual health. Entertainment and social gathering, a chance to meet other LGBT and like minded guys.
The newly built pavement by the river Surma under Keen Bridge, opposite to the clock tower is truly a peaceful and pleasant place to be. It's quite well maintained and the panoramic views across the river makes it a true rendezvous hot spot and attracts a vast number of visitors from all walks of life. This is becoming a popular hangaround with the foriegn Bangladeshis and foriegn visitors. And if you are lucky and happen to be there on a full moon night, with the cities lights down for a moment or two, then this will stay in your mind for a long time to come. Fridays are the busiest but crusing usely takes place mostly on the other days of the week at night. Shopping Mall and some public places also tend to be quite cruisy. Cox's bazaar This seaside town attracts a vast number of visitors from across the world and is a very cosmoplitan town. From what I have seen gay tourists do exist here and they behave really well and people generally leaves them alone. I traveled across the whole country with my boy friend by my side through out the journey and not once got any bad reaction from a single person. And any novice could tell we were more then just friends. Kolkata only a train journey away from Dhaka, is becoming a popular short trip destination for many Bangladeshi gay guys. Mainly for its relactuant and friendly attitude towards gay people. also the recent activities including the pride also attracts lot of tourist and not just Bangladeshis. Kolkata in the past known as Calcutta used to have one gay bar until recently it was shut down. However the Ginger bar, situated in 106 S.P. Mukherjee Road. Is where all the gay guys seems to hang around, this bar also seem to be popular with female prostitutes and their male clients. The Minto Park is a popular cruising ground but may not always be busy. The New Empire Cinema, situated in the New Market area, in 2 Humayun Road. is well known for it's interesting activites which takes place during the intermission on the 3rd floor balcony. Todays Kolkatha tends to be a very free minded, modern and a very cosmopolitan city. Crusing do not seem to take place in all places however Sardar Road, where most foriegn visitors hangs around has a very relaxed and friendly atmosphere. Late at night little allyway roads around Sardar Road tends to attract night walkers. Near by new market and some bars and night clubs tends to be quite gay tolarent and friendly(no wonder they calls it a european city). |