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About benGAYliz

 

First of all welcome to benGAYliz, a place where you can meet other LGBT guy's from across the globe.  benGAYliz, a word made out of Bangladeshi GAY and LESBIAN and a word that coresponds with the word Bangalis ( a term for Bangladeshis).  

 

 Being gay in Bangladesh has never been a phenomona.  It just has never been identified as being gay but more often in the olden days , refeared to as being Cirokumar (some one who chooses to live the batchelor life style).  I suspect weather it was a choice for most guy's to live like a batchelor, I mean what choice did they really have?  The society was never gona accept them as being diffrent, nor did it have the previlages of todays science, techonology, level of understanding or the education. To understand that being gay is not a personal acheivement that you develop as you grow but something you are born with. 

 

Today at the turn of the century, more and more Bangladeshi guy's are coming out and living like any other gay or lesbian guy's.  These are mainly the gay Bangladeshi's living abroad.  Even in Bangladesh more and more guys are staring to follow into the foot steps of their homosexual sisters and brothers living abroad.   However the senior generation, and those with the lack of understanding  the mordern science and with lack of education, often still struggles to adopt to the idea of living and sharing one society.  Yet still amagingly a lot of relationships do develope in the closet and continues discreetly ( a thing very common mainly with the married and bi sesxual guy's).

 

benGAYliz journey began in early 2007.  After being live and online for nearly two years it was finally launched at londons Kudos Bar in November 2008,  and was featured in two of the leading LGBT medium, Boyz megazine and the Pink Paper.  

 

Being a Muslim, Bangladeshi and coming from a well off back ground, I remember exectly how difficult it was for me, growing up as a gay teenager.  Then as I grew older I came to find out about the wide and wild London gay scene, the bars in Compton Street, GAY, Heaven, gay gym and saunas, the websites - gay.com and gaydar (like any gay teenagers do).  Thats when I started to wonder what would it be like to have a place or something to unite all the Bangladeshi LGBT's and their admirers together? and so, along came the idea of benGAYliz.

 

benGAYliz is a non profitable site and I hope my site will help guys of all age and sex's to benifit from the aboundance of information and facilities available to get connected with other like minded people across the world.  At present benGAYliz is operated by only a small group of guys.  Who voluntiarily contributes their time and effort to make sure the constant running of this site.  Hence we are open to all ideas and information offered.  So don't hesitate to contact us via our Contact Us page. 

 

Enjoy benGAYliz

 

 

Abs

 

               MODHUMITA                   

                                       Confiding to a friend!

  

FREE services include

  • Mens sexual treatments and advice
  • Accurate information and advice on how to avoide getting

       HIV and STI

  • Free HIV and STI tests
  • Counselling
  • Entertainment
  • Meet other like minded people and maake friends

 

 

Modumitha is your friend. Friend you can trust,

Share your feelings with.  Likewise Modhumita is your trust

worthy friend. We will provide you confidential advice on

sexual health matters, such as  

HIV, Aids, and STDs.

 

Modhumita, Block A(next to South East Bank on Main Road),

Uposhor

Sylhet

 

CRUISING IN BANGLADESH

 

Gay cruising in Bangladesh, we bring you the latest hot and happening gossip on the invisible yet the very existing gay scece of Bangladesh.  Now, few years ago if some one had told me, "you know I met some one on the street today and we went back to their place and had a bit of a naughty fun", I would not believe them.  But having seen it with my own eyes I have just one thing to say, YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT!!.  

 

In the whole country there is not one single place, could be found particularly just for us gay boys.  Yet surprisingly cruising takes place everywere, in social clubs, gym, parks, lakes, river pavements and even on the street. 

 

Dhakas Romna park is still one of the most popular gay cruising ground.  Just after dark in the evening seems the most busiest, then it slows down a bit.  But you really have to be careful with who you flirt with and where you do it.  The city police is usely patroling in and around the park even in the most quietest  of the time.  So best hang around and see what’s going on.  It wont be long before you will see interesting stuff going on in the dark corners and down by the lake.  My best advice to outsiders and visitors don't approach anyone unless you are 100% sure it's safe to do so.  Honestly park is full of caracters and not to mention the genuine by passers  and public.  Who do come in just for a walk or peaceful fresh air.  As the park is really well maintained and trully a nice place to be in, so it does attract a lot of public.  It even has a classy Chinese restauran at the entrance. 

Generally things takes place from just a normal conversation.  Usely it's like "Oh what you doing here? Didn’tDid'nt expect to find you in here"  So the other person will be like, "I think you are confusing me with some one else".  Then you reply "I am so sorry You know, you are the spitting image of my friend who I havent seen for ages, I wondered what would he be doing here"  Then the conversation just carries on by "by the way I m bla bla bla, whats your name?".  So from my own experience approaching some one is really that simple and it happens everywhere.

 

Some hotels in Dhaka are also becoming very gay friendly and accommodating now days.  Unfortunately hotels can not be named for obvious reasons but normally the 3* to 5* hotels are the best in facilitating your needs in this prospect. 

 

Sylhet is undoubtedly the next best city for gay cruising and socialising.  MODHUMITHA, a government funded project located in the heart of the town centre.  Provides a handful of services for it's members including 

  • Regular health checkups.
  • Information on HIV, STD and sexual health.
  • Counseling.
  • Entertainment and social gathering, a chance to meet other LGBT and like minded guys.
     

The newly built pavement by the river Surma under Keen Bridge, opposite to the clock tower is truly a peaceful pleasant place to be.  It's quite well maintained and the panoramic views across the river makes it a truly hot rendezvous spot and attracts a vast number of visitors daily in the evening.  And if you are lucky and happen to be there on a full moon night, with the cities lights down for an hour or two, then this will stay in your mind for a long time to come. Fridays are the busiest but crusing usely takes place mostly on the other days of the week at night.  Shopping Mall and some public places also tend to be quite cruisy.

 

Cox's bazaar This seaside town attracts a lot of gay visitors from across the world and very cosmoplitan, and mind you from what I have seen gay tourists here do behave really well and people generally leaves them alone.  I traveled across the whole country with my boy friend by my side through out the journey and not once got any bad reaction from a single person.  And any novice could tell we were more then just friends.

 

Calcutta Also happens to be another most free minded and modern city.  Crusing does not take place in all places how ever Sardar Road, where most foriegn visitors hangs around is one of the most cruisy place.  Near by new market and some bars night clubs tends to be quite gay friendly(no wonder they calls it a european city). There were one gay club in the entire town and that was shut down recently.  Other wise the city is truly european and modern and being gay hardly takes anyone's interest.

 

 

 

 

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Bangladeshi and South Inddian boy's Pictures from Mic's site

 

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Do you know a story/true story? wana share with others? write to abs@bengayliz.com with your story and we will publish it in this website. 

  

 

 

Useful link to law and info about GAY scene in Bangladesh

       "Being GAY" an article by Sajal Khaled (in bengali). Clik here

 

        Article by Arnab Dutta "About Homosexuality" (in bengali). Clik here
 
GAYGUIDE.NET
Your guide to the global gay network
 
 
 
  Bangladeshi and Indian Boys Pictures from Mic's Site (clik in side the box)
 

  

 

To advertise or have your link in our information page please send information and contact details to abs@bengayliz.com

 

 

NEWS, VIEWS,ACCOMMODATION LISTINGS 

 

 

Bandhu Social Welfare Society works towards the wellbeing of stigmatized and socially excluded males and their partners through the provision of sexual health services, support of human rights and alternate livelihoods.

HIV/AIDS TESTS CENTRES, CONTACT AND HELP

 

UK

 AMBROSE KING CENTRE
WHITECHAPEL
Royal London Hospital
020 7377 7306/7
 
Guys Hospital, Mon, Wed and Thursdays 
0207 955 2108
 
HARINGAY/ TOTENHAM
St Anns Hospital, Mon to Fri
0208 442 6464 
                         
HAMPSTED
Royal Free Hospital, Tues and Thursdays
            
Luton GUM
Luton and Dunstable Hospital 
Lewsey Rd
Luton
LU4 ODZ
01582 49 70 70
 
Bedford GUM
Bridge House
Bedford Hospital NHS Trust (South Wing)
Britannia Place, Britannia Road
BEDFORD
MK42 9DJ

 01234 792146

                       BANGLADESH                     

I C D D R B CENTRE 
(provides a voluntary counselling and testing
unit called ZAGORI, they charge a fee of
Tk 50.00 which is less then .50 pence)
                                
MOHAKALI
DHAKA 1212 (entrance through the main gate,
AGRONI BANK, 2nd floor)
                          
Arumbia Zaidi
0173040939zaidi@icddrb.org     
 
Md Abu Sayem    
0171438827sayem_304@yahoo.com   
 
Dr M Parvez                                                  
0191327979, drmp6817@yahoo.com 
                       
Dr Tasnim Azim  
011808372, tasnim@icddr.org